During my corporate career I attended a class on “how to show up confident”. It had quite a few tips I don’t remember exactly. But today I remembered it when I noticed that I was feeling very confident and at ease during a networking event. In particular I was standing exactly the way it was taught in that class, standing with the feet in a V-shape and hands on the sides!
Confident Businesswoman photo from ShutterstockIn that confidence class when the instructor taught us about the standing poses, it didn’t make too much sense. It felt awkward, not only that, my analytic mind had lots of why questions. But today I was standing in that posture without even thinking about it. I wondered what actually happened in between. Here is what I found.
When I started going to the networking events as a new coach it was very hard for me. I used to feel small as I didn’t have much to offer. Not to mention seeing some others’ highly extrovert styles discouraged me even more, I assumed that was the only way to succeed. It took me a while but eventually I figured what worked for me.
1. Being Purposeful: I look for the events where I might meet people I am interested about. Few examples:
- Those who could benefit from my service
- I could be partner with
- I could learn from and
- could connect me with people I am interested in.
2. Being Clear about My Intention: When I am introducing myself, I can clearly articulate, what I do and what I am looking for.
3. Being Unattached to Any Particular Outcome: If I am not stressed about the outcome I am more natural and confident. I am at my best and those are the occasions I make most quality connections.
4. Being Authentically Interested: I focus more to learn about other people and their needs and challenges. It helps, I divert my attention from me to something more productive.
5. Enjoying the Moment: I consider it as an opportunity for me to dress up, go out and enjoy the time. If there is food, I make good use of those. Not a whole lot could go wrong when you are having a discussion over food!
Bottom line? Rather than following some advice blindly, I found my own sweet spot. In the end I am standing the same way it was suggested in that class, but it came naturally when I was more conscious and purposeful – not the other way around.
Sharmin Banu is a development partner for high performers who wants to have more Growth, Purpose and Joy for their work and lives. On top of her coach training, a deep eastern cultural background and a 12-year of high tech corporate experience give her a unique position of learning what blocks people to move up in their career path and what helps them to excel. She is very passionate about helping professionals so they can honor their core selves and leverage those to thrive and succeed in the high paced corporate culture and have more fulfillment from their lives. Sharmin’s clientele is mostly high-tech professionals in the mid-level in their career. Sharmin and her husband have a young daughter and lives in Kirkland WA. Sharmin loves to stay in touch with her friends and the extended family.
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