Job Seekers Looking For Validation Need To Be Careful

Being a job seeker isn’t easy. It can be hard on our psychology (how’s your psychology today?) since we are open to messages, people and events that might support that slightly frail confidence of ours.

Here are 17 ways to build confidence during job search.

We are looking for signs of validation and reminders that we are awesome people when everything’s normal. I sometimes have to remind people of their great days so they can pull up their own boots and get back to the job search.

While working, of course, validation abounds. And if ever you were feeling less than whole you could pull out your business card and see “Director” or “VP” on your business card instead of “Results-Oriented Business Executive” or whatever you’ve decided to use as your positioning statement during job search. Or your validation may have come via the calls you received from recruiters urging you to come interview at a new company.

Not so much today, huh?

So we sometimes lower our standards and allow smaller bits of validation to tempt us. If they come in the form of small wins, that’s good. Paying attention to small wins provides a great and regular validation system.

But if we are looking to hard, there is a chance we might find something rotten.

Here two types of false validation you may be seeing. So you can avoid them:

1. Fake LinkedIn connection requests:

These come via email and look promising. Someone wants to connect with me! Our head starts to swim with anticipation. A recruiter? Hiring manager?

Nope. See below:

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I got this via email this week. It would have been easy to click on it. It’s from LinkedIn, right? Everybody trusts LinkedIn.

But there’s a simple way to determine if the email is real. Hover over the links with your mouse and see where it plans to take you. Clearly not to LinkedIn in this case.

Here’s another one:

2. The Dreaded “Who’s Who” or other professional business listing

Of course these aren’t new. But if your job search is, you might think – Hey, here’s something good. I could add my new designation onto my LinkedIn profile or resume – this could be just the boost I need. But the problem is it’s not real.

I got two of these last week. Here’s the first (an apparent follow-up):

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And here’s the second:

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You’ll notice they use they use a very similar link. The problem, of course, is that these are blind offers to anyone – even if you aren’t worthy. Which I’m sure you are and feel you are. That’s why these are tempting.

If you go to, you get this:

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Having not clicked on any of these links (trying to take my own advice) I don’t know what damage would be done. Any volunteers (just kidding)? But that’s not the point. The point is: this isn’t the validation you are looking for.

If you are looking for validation – and I wouldn’t blame you – here’s my advice:

1. Go back to your resume and re-read it to find all the great accomplishment statements there.

2. Read the LinkedIn recommendations on your profile.

3. Go grab lunch with a former co-worker that thinks you are great. Or join my LinkedIn group.

4. Read a book to get your confidence back up – you won’t be seeking as often

5. Go volunteer somewhere during job search – keep your skills fresh.

Remember to keep your eyes open, seek validation in the right places and start tracking your small wins.

You’ll be OK.

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