Embracing Your Inner F BombAs a speaker, you need to embrace your inner F-bomb. That is speakers should embrace their flaws, foibles, and fails. What F-bomb were you thinking of?
This trio of F-bombs tends to hold us back from getting out their and speaking our story. Flaws, foibles and fails happen to even the best speakers. It’s not that we have these F-bombs, it how we use, recover and thrive with them
There is no such thing as a flawless speaker. Speaking is an art that you need to constantly improve. Our flaws are what make us interesting watch. It what makes us human. You might think you talk too fast or too slow, you gesture too much or not enough, the pitch of your voice is too high or too low. Speaking isn’t Goldilocks and 3 Bears – you don’t have to be just right. You just have to do your best and have kick-ass content.
Embrace what in your mind are your flaws. Those make you stand-out. It’s what makes you human instead of a Cylon.
Speakers make mistakes. Did you ever forget a part of your speech? Then afterwards thought “Man, I can’t believe I forgot that part. It was so important. I totally left it out.” Honestly, this is the BEST kind of foible to have. No one in the audience knows what you left out, forgot or didn’t say perfectly. Only you do.
What about mistakes the whole audience knows you made? You know like dropping the B-word in front of an entire audience of business professionals? Mistakes are always larger in our own minds than the mind of our audiences. Mistakes are magic. They transform you from being the all-knowing speaking guru on the stage to a real, authentic person made of human parts.
I’m not telling you to intentional screw up during your presentation. I’m telling you if it happens – to roll with it. If your audience is laughing at you, laugh with them. They’ll adore you even more.
The worst F-bomb is presentation fails. These happen to even the best of speakers (remember the Tony Robbins even when a bunch of people got burns on their feet from walking across the coals?) Sometime your audience analysis is off – read my lesson from an audience fail. Or that really fun joke you wrote – flops. Fails happened. You’re not perfect. In fact your, perfectly imperfect and the fact that you are reading this blog, means you want to get better, learn, and improve.
Failures teach us lessons. It teaches us what content works and what falls flat. You learn more about your audience and yourself as a speaker. A presentation fail is a great learning opportunity. It’s feedback that guides us toward continually improvement. it’s disappointing, but don’t miss the lesson.
And for pity’s sake, don’t let a fail silence your story. Just because you messed up, doesn’t mean it wasn’t worth sharing.
Give a big hug to your inner F-bomb. Those flaws, foibles and fails ultimately make your a better speaker. Heck, according to Craig Valentine, these F-words even give your fodder for future presentations.
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