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Try to remember what first attracted you to the house.Redecorate at least one of the rooms.Put up your personal photos and stufI. I also think the 'smell' of a place is important,get rid of any old smelly carpets and curtains.Open the windows or get in some nice smelly candles. Last suggestion is make love in each of the rooms ! Then you will have a nicer association with the house if you see what I mean !!

by la-la

4 weeks ago

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Oh.....this is a tricky problem. It's definitely NOT usual. First though - dont do anything rash. You have just spent thousands on the house buying process itself...you dont need to go through that again.....and when you're a seller - you have to pay much more.....estate agent costs....movers costs.....bigger legal costs ....valuation costs etc etc. You definitely need to make your house your HOME. You're associating your new home with all the crap it sounds like you had to go through to buy it....THATS OVER. Dont worry. Have a couple of friends over - they will point out all the good things - believe me. Decorate 1 room to your taste - it doesn't cost much - and will make you feel much better. Get mum & dad round (if possible) to give you their ideas - they may even be able to help you out a bit. Give yourself 6 months - if you still dont like it - look to more drastic action. Time is a great healer! Good Luck!

by aj at the bank- 4 weeks ago

that is unusual. buyer's remorse hits often times immediately after offer was accepted. usually moving in is a little more pleasant feeling. you paid about 4% in costs to get into it. you will incur about 10% to sell. do not sell it. just be patient.

by David Z- 4 weeks ago

You have described "buyer's remorse" -- a very common emotion after buying a house. Many people feel the same way; most get over it. Give the house a chance. Think about how you felt when you made an offer on the house, and what you liked about it at that time. Unpack. Invite your friends over. Get used to living in the house. Maybe you will still not like the house, but, if so, make that decision after rational consideration. In order to do that, you must get over your emotional response.

by Harlequin- 4 weeks ago

You have an extreme case of buyer's remorse. I had renter's remorse that bad when I first moved to Brooklyn and the land lady and her son had a knock down drag out fight and somebody went down the front stairs. Don't make any rash decisions. Maybe if you paint and get your stuff spread around you'll feel different. Your house will probably be just fine in a little while. If you still hate it in about 6 months, test the waters before you list it. But give yourself some time to get used to it first. Maybe meeting some of your neighbors would help. Knock on someone's door and ask for a recommendation for a dry cleaner or florist, or something in the neighborhood. You might just be lonely.

by daeve930- 4 weeks ago

This is sad. But we call it buyers remorse. Just relax, unpack. Begin to think about how you will make it your home. Think paint, drapes/curtains, new bedroom stuff, new shower curtain,... pictures.... You'll be fine. It's not unusal.

by Realtoratheart- 4 weeks ago

It sounds like you have a very extreme case of buyer's remorse but don't lose hope. It sounds like you're still stressed/upset over the issues you had just getting the house. We bought our house about a month ago but we spent 6 months waiting for the short sale approval. Then we had a few things happen right before closing that almost killed the entire deal. There was a lot of stress and emotional moments so I can completely understand how you must feel. However, the trick is letting that all go once you have your keys. I visually imagined myself just shaking it all off and moving on. I didn't want to put that stress on the house and I think it worked. When we first took possession of the house, it was a total mess. The previous owners never cleaned a thing and it was just pure filth. I hated being in it at first because I felt so grossed out by the filth every where I looked. We cleaned like crazy and I slowly felt myself becoming more comfortable. Then the best part, we started priming the walls and putting our color choices in each room. Just completing one room made the entire house feel different and that was with none of our belongings in the house. Now most of the main floor is our design and I absolutely love it. It sounds silly but you should invite people over. Friends and family will compliment your home and it will make you feel good. Hearing people say nice things about your new house makes you see it from their perspective and can appreciate the best qualities. They may even offer up some ideas that you like to make it really your own. You can’t focus on other houses you think are better, as there is always something bigger, newer, and prettier around. The key is to be happy with what you actually have and not worry what someone else has that you don’t. Be thankful you have your house and enjoy making it completely you. The best thing you can do is remove the old owner’s personal touches and replace them with your own. Start looking for positive features of your house, especially the ones that got your attention in the first place. Don't get discouraged by repairs that are needed since there's always something to be done in a house. Just focus on the positive points and graciously accept compliments when given. Give yourself time to adjust to your new home. There are new sounds, smells and places to hang out so take your time finding your new rhythm. Take at least 6 months of living there full time and trying to make it your own space before deciding it's a bad house for you. Good luck. Brit

by Positively Pink- 4 weeks ago

Don't do anything impulsive. Move in. Unpack everything and decorate it like its your home. Throw a housewarming party. Then see how you feel. I think you will find you have changed your decision.

by Mark L- 4 weeks ago