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    Shy? 3 ways to use it to your advantage

    A communication coach offers a bevy of tips on how entrepreneurs who don't naturally excel at self-promotion can shed their cloak of invisibility and get noticed.

    Introverts, due to their reserved nature, step out of the shadows less often than the more outgoing. But thanks to a new book by Susan Cain titled Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking, the quieter folks among us are having something of a moment in the sun. From a Time cover story to a New York Times Sunday Review piece by Cain, the topic of how our society undervalues introverts and the needs of those with a quieter disposition has been making frequent appearances in the media lately.

    But while Cain does a great job of advocating for introverts and shining a spotlight on their strengths and preferences, for entrepreneurs in the world as it exists now, extroversion still has plenty of obvious benefits. The ease of networking and comfort with self-promotion that come with that 'E' on the Myers Briggs assessment, make it simpler to publicize and fund your venture, But that doesn't mean introverts are shut out of the start-up game. Far from it, as the head-down, detail-oriented nature of introverts gives them a leg up when it comes to withdrawing from the world to cook up new ideas.

    Once you have that amazing innovation though, you need to get it out there, which is where Nancy Ancowitz comes in. The author and business communication coach was recently interviewed by Tahl Raz on the myGreenlight Blog, offering tips on how introverts can lose the cloak of invisibility that often prevents the gregarious from noticing their accomplishments. Ancowitz explains:

    The way that [introversion] would hurt you the most is in the invisibility department. So if you tend to believe that you're accomplishments should speak for themselves that can hurt. Don't expect that other people are going to promote you and your work, just because you're sitting there working really hard and creating great things all day.

    Instead of crossing your fingers and hoping your industriousness and innovation speak for themselves, in the 30-minute audio interview Ancowitz gives business owners a bevy of practical bits of advice on how they can use their shy nature to their advantage (and fight back against a business world that's often biased towards extraverts). These include:

    • Get out there… in writing. Many introverts are naturally good writers, says Ancowitz. If you struggle to make a good case for yourself or your product in person, put yourself out there in writing instead through blog posts, white papers or whatever means is available.
    • Forget winging it. Extraverts excel at thinking on their feet but introverts need to ponder before they speak. Make your life easier by thoroughly preparing a few talking points before meetings and networking events.
    • Videotape is an introvert's best friend. If you're the type that cringes when you hear your own voice on your voicemail greeting, this may sound like a terrible idea, but Ancowitz suggests getting a coach, friend, or mentor to film you in a social setting or large meeting. This often quickly reveals off-putting body language or annoying verbal ticks that can cause others to view you as aloof or anti-social and which are simple to correct.

    Ancowitz's chat with Raz is wide-ranging and lasts just longer than a half an hour, so there are far more tips and tricks available for those looking for a deep dive into the subject. Download the complete audio file here.

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    27 comments

    • jr  •  3 months ago
      Being shy sucks... people think you are stuck up or not friendly. But to the contrary if you came up to me I'd be super friendly... I am just reserved otherwise...
    • Stony  •  3 months ago
      Introverts are smarter because listeners learn more than talkers.
    • Lauren  •  Fayetteville, North Carolina  •  3 months ago
      Some of the finest people I know are introverts. They are often overlooked because of being introverts, or they are misunderstood for the same reason. There is nothing wrong with being an introvert, or an extrovert, for that matter. Neither are wrong in themselves, just different.
    • VanessaS  •  Newark, New Jersey  •  3 months ago
      I'm shy as well in public but I'm not anti-social or unfriendly. I hate when people lump the two together. I love to go out and hang out and be around people. I just don't talk much if I don't know the people, that's all. Anyone who knows me well can tell you how much I talk when I'm with them.
      • Tori 3 months ago
        I am exactly the same way. i have been this way forever. Some people think that I am stuck up because I don't talk much when first meeting people. It takes me awhile to warm up. When I am comfortable with you then I will open up.
      • Caroline and Co. 3 months ago
        That's how I am too... Just because people don't know me they assume that because I'm quiet I'm stuck up and don't want to be friends with them... My close friends and family have to get me to shut up and be quieter when I'm around them! :) I just don't like putting myself out there to people I don't know...
    • facepalm  •  3 months ago
      I'm shy as well. I keep to myself, not because I'm unfriendly, but because I never know what to say... especially nowadays, you could be making a harmless remark about the weather and then offend somebody! Usually when people start to get to know me, they'll tell me "I thought you were a snob or something at first" I get that alot and people tell me I'm attractive so they figured I was too full of myself to interact with anybody else. FAR FROM IT! I have some of the crappiest self esteem, which is why I shy away from people. Just goes to show, don't judge a book by its cover! :D
      • Sthinker 3 months ago
        Facepalm: "A troll is a troll is a troll" ? You're judged accurately..... wikipedia "Passive-Agressive"
      • Caroline and Co. 3 months ago
        Same here... I'm just quiet because I don't have anything to say, and I'll open up when I feel comfortable around a person :)
    • k  •  Phoenix, Arizona  •  3 months ago
      i m shy
    • Jaime  •  Newark, New Jersey  •  3 months ago
      i feel more alone in crowds
      • Lolavie 3 months ago
        You probably take yourself out of the crowd like not physically but mentally or emotionally you make yourself feel left out ... happends to everyone
    • Lindsey  •  Boston, Massachusetts  •  3 months ago
      Being shy and being introverted are not the same thing. I'm introverted but not shy. I simply enjoy time alone and find that being around lots of other extroverted people drains me of my energy.
    • Athena  •  3 months ago
      Uh, did you not read the book? Cain makes a point of stressing that introversion does NOT equal shyness. Oh, well, never let content get in the way of a headline...
    • David H.  •  Naples, Florida  •  3 months ago
      To sit quietly and to listen to someone interesting is not a bad thing, just don't drool on your shoes and show some responsive interaction.
    • Miba  •  3 months ago
      As someone who is shy I can say the videotape idea is horrible. If I watched myself in public I would (1) never be able to go near the person I was with in the video again, (2) be extra nervous and self conscious when in public due to the fact that I now know what I look like and how I act which would make me act that way mroeso and make every little movement a living nightmare of wonder of if it's a bad movement to make, (3) probably make me wind up being a permanent hermit who never leaves the house even to go to the grocery store for fear of how I act, and (4) make me hate myself, driving myself into a deeper downward spiral of depression.
    • Geoffrey  •  Boulder, Colorado  •  3 months ago
      Think most people believe shy people are stuck up, or stupid? Put yourself in my shoes... I'm shy, and have a fairly extensive hearing loss, from an accident when I was a child. Not quite enough for hearing aids, but enough to miss much of the conversations going on around me, especially at parties. I often miss punch lines, which is a problem for sure. So, I keep pretty much to myself. I've been considered rude at times, simply because I didn't respond to someone. And imagine when someone talks trash about me, and I couldn't hear enough to build up a proper response. I just look stupid. So, yes...I'm shy, and prefer to keep to myself in order to save my SELF.
    • TH  •  3 months ago
      I have to agree with JR. I am shy also. I have had plenty of people who think I am stuck up but I would be your best friend and would love to converse with anyone. I just lack that ability to step up to the plate. Its not that I am afraid to talk, and its not that I think I am too good or stuck up. Its hard to explain. You talk, I will listen and then once I feel more comfortable I will talk too.
      • Caroline and Co. 3 months ago
        Exactly the same for me :) I just don't feel comfortable putting myself out there to people I don't know for fear of rejection... Ask my family and close friends; they'll tell you I talk a LOT when I'm around them :) I just hate it when people assume I'm stuck up...
    • Barney  •  3 months ago
      Introvert/extrovert. Nothing wrong with that.
      Judgemental people who don't know you..and then make assumptions about you ?
      They stink.
    • cyril cardona  •  Manila, Philippines  •  3 months ago
      silent river runs deep...
    • greene_teeth  •  Chattanooga, Tennessee  •  3 months ago
      I think it is pretty stupid of people to determine what a person is or how one thinks by giving a written test over and over and over.
    • greene_teeth  •  Chattanooga, Tennessee  •  3 months ago
      I have been given the Myers Briggs assessment tests since I was eleven or twelve years old. I had it figured out and was able to manipulate the results for others to know what my type was since that age.
    • Lolavie  •  Las Vegas, Nevada  •  3 months ago
      Im shy but I try hard to not let it take me down or hold me back from doing things, even though ill probably be really red from whatever Im doing haha :O)
    • dojolaser  •  3 months ago
      introverts have the best sex!
    • Peeping Tom  •  3 months ago
      When I was a kid and teenager people would actually treat me like I was dumb just because I didn't talk much :-(
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